As Congress inches toward allowing gay men and women to die openly for their country, the history of American bigotry comes back to an octogenarian who has lived through so much of it:

*A father-in-law who went to medical school in Scotland because American universities had filled their Hebrew quotas.

*My own experience in the 1950s as the first Jew to be hired by George W. Bush’s grandfather for his publishing empire.

*The injuries and indignities heaped on “Negroes” until Martin Luther King put his body where his mind and heart were.

*The ridicule endured by Feminists for protesting the status of women as “second-class citizens.”

In all this, the victims did not ask to be loved or admired but simply to be treated with the fairness and respect accorded to all Americans.

For the simple truth about fighting bigotry is not to change people’s minds and hearts but their habits. Anti-Semitism, racism and misogyny still exist, but between then and now, we have had an African-American in the White House, a Jew running for Vice-President, women on the Supreme Court and in major Cabinet posts.

“There is no rational basis to keep qualified and dedicated gays from serving in the military,” Andrew Sullivan now says. “It was confidence in this truth–not assertion of any special identity or special rights–that carried us forward…”

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