I was drafting another piece on all the hullaballoo(n) about the Chinese balloon and was planning to write one about the hubbub last night during the State of the Union address, when a post on Facebook caught my attention and put it all into (temporary) perspective.
The post is a list of changes an unknown person “who has crossed 70 and is heading towards 80” is feeling in himself.
To a person who is heading towards 90, the changes listed hit home, especially number 2 in the list below.
Paraphrasing that item: At my age, I am not going to change the world, nor should I feel responsible for or feel the weight of all that seems to be wrong with the world.
Such feeling is perhaps selfish, hopefully transitory. Perhaps tomorrow I’ll be back ranting and wailing.
But for today, here is some food for thought for our septuagenarians, octogenarians, for all those lucky to be nonagenarians, and we’ll throw in the “non-genarians.”
1. After loving my parents, my siblings, my spouse, my children and my friends, I have now started loving myself.
2. I have realized that I am not “Atlas”. The world does not rest on my shoulders.
3. I have stopped bargaining with vegetable & fruit vendors. A few pennies more is not going to break me, but it might help the poor fellow save for his daughter’s school fees.
4. I leave my waitress a big tip. The extra money might bring a smile to her face. She is toiling much harder for a living than I am.
5. I stopped telling the elderly that they’ve already narrated that story many times. The story makes them walk down memory lane & relive their past.
6. I have learned not to correct people even when I know they are wrong. The onus of making everyone perfect is not on me. Peace is more precious than perfection.
7. I give compliments freely & generously. Compliments are a mood enhancer not only for the recipient, but also for me. And a small tip for the recipient of a compliment, never, NEVER turn it down, just say “Thank You.”
8. I have learned not to bother about a crease or a spot on my shirt. Personality speaks louder than appearances.
9. I walk away from people who don’t value me. They might not know my worth, but I do.
10. I remain cool when someone plays dirty to outrun me in the rat race. I am not a rat & neither am I in any race.
11. I am learning not to be embarrassed by my emotions. It’s my emotions that make me human.
12. I have learned that it’s better to drop the ego than to break a relationship. My ego will keep me aloof, whereas with relationships, I will never be alone.
13. I have learned to live each day as if it’s the last. After all, it might be the last.
14. I am doing what makes me happy. I am responsible for my happiness, and I owe it to myself.
This was posted by OliViral, a great “leading pet stories and awareness building network…[hoping to]raise inspiration and sensitivity about pets in human hearts.” Check it out HERE.
The post concludes with the thought:
Happiness is a choice. You can be happy at any time, just choose to be!
I decided to share this for all my friends. Why do we have to wait to be 60 or 70 or 80, why can’t we practice this at any stage and age?
It adds the caveat that the list was “borrowed” from an unknown author, giving him or her credit and thanks.
The author is a retired U.S. Air Force officer and a writer.