The cover of Sunday’s New York Times Magazine in jangled hand-printing reads “I have sat in shrinks’ offices going on four decades now and talked about my wish to die the way other people might talk about their wish to find a lover.” These words surround a small dark snapshot of a woman’s face looking at the camera in utter despair.
I know that face, just as I know something about the feeling those words describe. A quarter of a century ago, the writer, Daphne Merkin, fresh out of college, worked for me at McCalls, a gifted young woman, more serious than most but glowing with ambition for the literary career that stretched ahead of her.
Now, in painful detail, she tells of a life since then in a black cloud of chronic depression punctuated by constant psychotherapy and mounds of medication, ending in a hospital stay anguishing over whether or not to submit to ECT, electro-shock therapy.
Her thousands of words evoke the extreme of a condition I have lived with since childhood, suffered with in loved ones and anguished over with friends and colleagues. Her account will resonate with the afflicted and baffle those lucky enough to find it exotic, perhaps even self-indulgent.
Yet it is at the heart of modern life, as painful, debilitating and destructive as cancer.