Senator Clinton wins the nomination and becomes President of the United States. “Hillary Clinton,” the headlines blaze, “America’s First Mother of the Nation!” How do you feel? Thrilled? Shocked? Resentful? Afraid? Inspired? Is this an OMG! moment for you: My President is my Mama and yo’ Mama, too?!

It is totally clear to me who would embody America’s most revolutionary president. Senator Clinton states symbolically in material form that the promise of constitutional equality is truly possible for the more than half of the US population who for more than 230 years have been completely excluded from leading our country. If she were president, President Clinton would show all the eligible girls and women of America–whatever shade of tan—(including Senator Barack Obama’s children and his wife), that since I have done it, you can, too. And in an even more revolutionary act, President Clinton would become a mind-expanding role model for boys as well, just as all the father/presidents of the nation have been for girls as they have heretofore dreamed in vain of becoming president.

After all, America, Senator Obama is really only just another man, another in the long line of Father/Presidents before him—albeit younger, slimmer, but still very traditional, a daddy, with a deeper sonorous voice, and a little more tan to his tinge than Senator Clinton. Senator Obama is the American hero son whose sun dazzles the eye. Cinderella-minded women of all shades of tan can imagine him as Prince Charming Obama.

America loves a young hero prince. But I think, when it comes to women, this hero prince may be a wolf in sheep’s clothing. As another Father of the Nation, albeit slightly darker, but still traditional, what would he do for more than half of the American citizenry of all shades? Would he be any different from the long line preceding him back to George Washington, who have done virtually nothing for women and girls and what they have done has been under concerted external pressure? In 2008, we still don’t have an Equal Rights Amendment, which would wipe out the still thousands of discriminatory laws on the books and whose passage would benefit All American women.

Looking at some suggestive signs and symbols here is what I see. Senator Obama’s marriage has been publicly presented as a very traditional one with a stand-by-and-stand-behind-your-man wife who reluctantly steps into the limelight to defend him as necessary. He is clearly presented as head of the household—a very old-fashioned family values version. In regards to his female elders, he has blatantly disrespected his grandmother and spoken little of his mother. He has been quoted as referring to older women—as old ladies in need of his help crossing the street. Really, that outdated boy scout merit badge move became a sexist joke a quarter century ago. Recently he campaigned in Pennsylvania, calling women “sweetie” and “honey” and flirted coquettishly with them. What gives with the sexist attitude?

These not so subtle signals flash to men—“I’m one of you, buddy boys. I won’t upset the social apple cart power balance, even if I am a little more tan.” They flash to women maybe I’ll be the next glamorous star in ‘The Batchelor.’” But over all, the predominant message is “I’ll keep the social balance between women and men just as it should be.” And that is potentially– unchanged.

Senator Clinton, by definition, upsets the old power balance forms. Her candidacy overturns American history. Her presidency would set everything on its ear. Her marriage is categorically non-traditional. It demonstrates a forward thinking barrier-breaking structure: She stands beside her man in thick and thin (and has been roughly, roundly, and routinely slammed for doing so) as an equal partner. In fact, her man has NOT been allowed to stand by her. She has had to go it alone for most of the campaign. She has been required to demonstrate that she is strong enough to take all the heat that the boys (and the girls) can dish out. She has taken it and then some.

She is clearly an older woman and a mother in a society that is hostile and condescending to older women and mothers. And, in the face of the hostility she is facing as an older woman and mother, she speaks with loving respect and deep admiration for her mother and her father. She is clearly a wonderful mother—you have only to see the light of love and pride in her eyes for her daughter and in her daughter’s for her.

So, Senator Clinton, embrace your inner mother—let your love for all of us shine forth. We know you are brilliant. We know you are a great policy wonk. We know you are an indefatigable underdog. We know you can take the heat. We know you are strong. Now show us the one thing that Senator Obama cannot—show us your Mother love. Inspire us. Tell us in this nightmare of obscene war and economic collapse, that everything will be alright. And then after reassuring us, tell us how you will fix it. Give us what every loving mother does in a time of trouble, your loving positive mother vision of our national future.

Quell the fear of, and yes, even the hatred of mothers and older women that lurks in the hearts and minds of thousands of women and men who have unresolved or even hostile feelings towards their mothers. Address this fear head on. Name it. Defuse it. By rejecting you in favor of the shining son, voters can symbolically shove that grapefruit in their mothers’ faces.

Let your big heart out! Tell us how you will embrace us all. How will you take care of us? Like pioneer mothers, slave mothers, welfare mothers, factory worker mothers, single mothers, and yes, even soccer-mom mothers, who endured and persevered and made do to love, feed, and house their families, let your mother love shine as you tell us how you will get us through to better times. Let us feel the love! Let us see the love. Look us in the eye and tell us that you love us and you will do all possible to make everything better. The policy will take care of itself after we are comforted and calmed. Let you, our first potential Mother of the Nation, be a love beacon for all.

And America, get over your sexism, ageism and anti-motherism! Get over your fantasy that the young dashing Hero will come to save you. These are really really hard times. More than 80% of you have recognized that we are in real trouble. What we need first is a very big dose of insightful mother loving TLC and then a huge national pot of chicken soup for our souls and for our well-being. So, Senator Clinton, give us what no other candidate can. Give us your mother love, give us a vision of America that our children can see, my 13 year old daughter is hungry for that vision, and help us at long last perhaps begin to grow up into a more fruitful nation with liberty and justice for all.

Abigail Adams, were she here, might say, “At last, America, you’ve finally remembered the ladies. It’s about time you elected yo’ mama president.” At http://www.vaboomer.com we support all women increasing their personal power. And we love our mamas.